When you're an introvert, you dream a lot. Especially about meeting that someone special. For me that someone special is very idealised. She's kind, generous, insightful, intelligent. She's tolerant, encouraging, warm, giving, happy.
She's equally at home wearing the collar or holding the leash. She goes with the flow, taking charge or submitting on a whim. She looks good in whatever she's wearing from silk to leather to rubber.
Yet she has many other attributes as well. She adores classic literature, she can't enough of science fiction and classical music sends her into rapture.
Okay, so it's a dream but it's a good dream. Because I don't see why the girl of my dreams can't be into everything I'm into, kinky or otherwise. Yet it's one thing to talk to a girl online or in a bar and say 'yeah I like Classical Music' or 'yeah I'm a big Star Trek fan'. That's easy. But you wouldn't just come out and say 'yeah I'm into BDSM'.
Except I want to be able to do that. Not telling a woman I like that I'm into BDSM strikes me as dishonest, yet every time I tell a woman that, I run the risk of ending our relationship. My interest in BDSM risks becoming the elephant in the room for any potential relationship. I'm willing to bet that's the same for many others. So hopefully, this site can help do something about that.
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