Is someone who likes to be tied up automatically a submissive? The answer is no. They just like being tied up. I really enjoyed it when my girlfriend used to tie me up, not least because she could be wickedly inventive. However that didn't mean I was submissive to her in any way when we weren't playing.
A friend of mine however is utterly submissive to his fiance in and out of the bedroom. He calls her Mistress and she calls him Pet. It works for them and next year they're going to have a wonderful wedding. I know however, that such a relationship wouldn't work for me. Much as I enjoy being tied up when I'm playing and calling my partner Mistress, I wouldn't call her that at any other time. As for the reverse, well I've tried that and again, I wouldn't want it.
You see the moment you add a D/s aspect to the relationship, the moment one partner calls the other slave, things become more serious. Now if you or your partner is submissive to that extent, then by all means incorporate it into your relationship but only if you're certain that's what you want. Otherwise stick to just tieing each other up or things will become awkward, for both of you.
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