Punishment

Another one for those interested in a D/s relationship, but an important topic nevertheless.  Punishments are seen by many as an integral part of a D/s relationship.  A slave may make a mistake or deliberately transgress the strictures laid down by their dominant so the dominant will have to punish them.

Now it's important to remember that consent is at the heart of all BDSM play and this applies to a submissive receiving a punishment as much as it does any other aspect of play.  So if you're new to a D/s relationship, then take it easy that first time a punishment is being given.

By that I mean one hard slap on the arse instead of repeated strikes, but that's only if you're getting physical.  Punishments can take any number of forms.  A friend of mine simply ignores her pet when he's displeased her as this is something he finds hard to cope with.  Another idea entirely is to have your submissive write lines or an essay detailing how they've been naughty, how sorry they are and how they'll strive to do better in future.

But, whatever form the punishment takes it must stay in proportion.  Going over the top and you'll only scare your submissive to the point where your relationship suffers.  So, proportion at all times.