There are a lot of misconceptions about BDSM. One of the most interesting is that interest in BDSM must stem from a childhood trauma. Now I'm not saying this can't be the case. Clearly for some people an experience when they're young can have an impact. I remember reading years ago in Bizarre of a Jewish man who'd been in the concentration camps who used BDSM as a way to deal with his experiences. Similarly in Nick Brown's documentary about the Pandora's box dungeon in New York, there were Jewish men who fantasized about being interrogated by the Nazis.
My last partner asked what had happened to me in my childhood when I first told her, but then again her only experience of BDSM prior to that was the Fifty Shades trilogy (which you should never use as an opener when it comes to talking about BDSM). However I didn't have any childhood trauma, I just had thoughts about what it would be like to be tied up. I kept having these thoughts as I grew up until I saw a feature on BDSM in FHM and suddenly I knew I was into Bondage.
For me it's part of my sexuality, which is why I'm not happy when anyone describes BDSM as a lifestyle choice. But that's getting off track and my main point is, just because you have an interest in BDSM, without any underlying trauma, doesn't make you a freak, it just means you're aware of your sexuality.
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